I have always believed that you don’t actually choose a best friend, it’s something that just happens. My best friend has been my friend for many years, we are so close that a day doesn’t go by where we don’t email or call each other and when we haven’t spoken for sometime, when we do get together it seems like we’ve never been apart.
But if you have a group of friends, choosing a best friend should not be determined by salary scales, maybe you choose jodi smith over the others, but there are a couple of things to consider before making the decision on who to consider your best friend.
Honesty Goes a Long Way
When there is a group of you, unfortunately you will often find one that will start a rumor or bad mouth one of the others in the group. Is one of the group members someone who will come and tell you, stand by you when you need them most and brave being outlasted by the rest of the group to ensure you are safe and your name isn’t dragged through the mud? If there is one person like this they are most likely to be the person you want to choose as your best friend, they have your feelings as a priority and are willing to risk anything to protect you.
Do you have one person that is always reliable. One example would be, you are moving home do they arrive early and help you all day and even though many of your other friends promised to help, they don’t arrive even though you have tried calling them from your free cell phone?
A best friend will always be honest to you and be reliable, you can call them and they will be on the other end of the line to listen or give advice.
Can You Talk To Them
A best friend is someone you can talk to about anything and not worry that the entire neighborhood is going to know your problems. You can speak to them about problems with your parents, relationship or at work or school and they will listen to every word, give advice if you want it and never utter a word to anyone else. This is a true friend.
You can choose jerry moffat or james resch as your best friend, but will they stand by you through thick and thin? Will they be there when you need them most and stand by you when you are down?
A best friend should be that one friend you can call on day or night. Someone that will listen and that you feel you can trust enough to talk about anything with. If you go for a couple of months without seeing each other, nothing should change when you are reunited. It should be like you were never apart.
To me my best friend is always the brother or sister I never had, someone I want to spend time with, that I can trust and someone I can talk to.